New Year’s Resolutions
New Year’s resolutions can be a wonderful thing! Many of us enjoy the fresh start of the new year, and want to “better ourselves,” start a new journey, try new things, and so much more! But as we approach the end of the first month of the new year, I’m sure many of us are starting to feel what may be a sense of unpleasant obligation towards these resolutions we’ve set. If you feel this way, read below to figure out how to shift your expectations and list of goals to better align with yourself and your emotions!
1. Don’t overdo it. The start of a new year causes many of us to want to leap into new goals, mindsets, ideas, and activities. We’re still human, just like we were last year! Set reasonably achievable goals for yourself, with potentially shorter timelines, lesser time requirements, and/or generally less commitment.
2. Avoid comparison. Many often say “comparison is the thief of joy.” Comparing your resolutions and goals to those of others will often only set you back! Nobody else is you, nor do they live your life. Set goals for the year that you want to do, and that you can achieve — not what someone else can do!
3. Plan things out. Setting goals that are too general makes them much more daunting. Setting timelines or daily/weekly/monthly schedules for reaching your goals can make things feel much lighter, easier, and more enjoyable. Many of us also thrive off a routine, so setting goals that fit into your daily routine can be great, too!
4. Allow flexibility and “human-ness.” Similar to point #1, it’s important to remember that a new year doesn’t mean you’ve suddenly morphed into a brand-new being, nor do you need to. It can be great to explore new paths and activities, but you don’t even need to set any goals at all.
And if you choose to, remember that these resolutions shouldn’t be negative. Avoid resolutions that start with phrases like “don’t do…” or “will not…” and instead think about how these goals for yourself can be positive. (Include things you enjoy, too — for example, one of my goals is to play the piano more because it brings me joy!)
